It's week two of the feng shui work group and we're getting into the good stuff. This week included a fiery and long winded talk about where responsibility lies when taking care of or making changes to a space. We all threw out frustrating examples of housemates who were living in ways that differed from our expectations. It was so easy to jump into the blame game! And it felt pretty good to get it all out. But we could have continued for hours on that track and gotten no where!
Here's a personal example: I love color. My husband could care less about what color paint is on the wall or whether there's any paint at all! For four years there was no paint on the walls because I waited for him to agree on a color and start to paint. I was unhappy ... he was clueless! So after much ado I finally took ownership of what I ALONE wanted. I stopped holding him responsible and started doing it myself. I chose a color, bought the paint and started painted. Two days later there was color on the walls! (For the record, once I started, he jumped on board and helped finish the job!) I'm happy, he's happy. The space has shifted and we've shifted to a better place in our relationship.
Happy Feng Shui-ing!