In her defense, she’s been battling a virus on and off for a couple of weeks. I’m also pretty sure she’s in the middle of a growth spurt. She stretches her mind daily in a French Immersion Program. And she’s challenging herself physically this year in competitive gymnastics. She’s smarter than her own good, can negotiate any deal to her advantage, and she’s witty in a wise-ass kind of way. (Those last 3 tend to get her into most trouble with us, but I think they’ll serve her really well later in life!) I believe she’s a truly sensitive soul, that doesn’t yet know how to filter all the input, and when she hits overload mode, she shoots daggers in defense. Watch out!
In our defense, it was 9:30 at night! We’re both worn down from the extra loads of barf-covered laundry, endless chauffeuring to birthday parties and sports events, and regular every day work. And honestly, we were a little blind-sided by her quick shift from searching for a bookmark to full on mayhem. Still, we could have handled it better too.
Somehow we all survived the tears and tantrum. We hugged it all out, vowed to try better tomorrow, and headed off to sleep. It was a pretty restless night for everyone. I was wide awake at 2am, and 3am, rethinking everything. How could I have done better? Why didn’t I whip out all those holistic calming remedies I have stockpiled? How can we help her find her own way back to calm? And most importantly (and the reason for bearing the ugly truth in this blog post) … is there a feng shui fix that could support her better?
I really believe in the benefit of the feng shui work I do! After years of working with it on my own and with clients, I’m convinced that health, happiness, well-being and success all around are intricately tied to the environment we spend our time. So of course it’s one of the first things I considered. Sadly, I think most people overlook their surroundings, and don’t see the potential for it as a cause or a cure. Even though I know there are plenty of things that could be contributing to where my daughter’s at right now, I’m certain that small changes to our space can lessen the blow all around.
By 4am I had given up on sleep and was sitting at the dining room table drawing out the floor plan for this house. We’ve only been here since June, maybe I’ve overlooked something. I even reached out to some Feng Shui colleagues for their thoughts. (A neutral set of feng shui eyes is always helpful!) In the end I see two places we can make adjustments that will support her:
First, this house is angled on a corner lot, and it can feel like the cars are driving right towards her bedroom. Unsettling, right? I’ve already put some corrections in place to soften this, but I think I’ll do a bit more work to alleviate that harsh chi. Second, her room is a crazy mess! When we moved in, I let the girls set up their own rooms. Basically the 7 year old opted for the floor to be the “home” for most of her stuff! I’ve been putting off stepping in for a while but the time has clearly come. This morning we both agreed that a re-org with adult guidance would be helpful. I know that limiting the stimuli in her space is key to helping her feel better. (And maybe we’ll find the @#*& bookmark!!)
If you need me later, you can find me sorting ponytail holders, colored pencils and books alongside my daughterJ Wish me luck!
December Clutter Clearing Challenge:
Clean out and organize all of your digital files: emails, mailing lists, apps, files, folders, photos, so you can spend less time looking for stuff or recreating work you’ve already done and more time focused on what’s most important. Watch for details ....